Getting Started In DA
Below you will find suggestions that others have taken to get started. You can find many of these suggestions and a collection of DA literature in our complimentary Newcomer's Packet, which can be download.
Newcomer's Packet - Debtors Anonymous Hawai'i Intergroup - May 2009
Stop incurring any new unsecured debt
First
and foremost, we suggest that you stop incurring any new unsecured
debt, one day at a time. Unsecured debt is any debt not backed up by
some form of collateral. Although refraining from compulsive debting
may be difficult and painful, it establishes a solid foundation for our
recovery.
Attend D.A. meetings regularly
Attending
meetings gives us a sense of hope, an opportunity to identify with
others, and a chance to meet people who can help us. Find a meeting in Hawaii or Find a meeting outside Hawai'i.
Record your expenses and your income
A
good way to do this is to buy a small notebook or planner that is easy
to carry. Throughout each day, we write down everything we spend and
any income we receive, no matter how small the amount. Do not be
discouraged if you cannot keep perfect records. If you lose track,
begin again as soon as you can. We believe in progress, not perfection.
Read D.A. literature
You will find useful suggestions
and new insights. We also find it helpful to read these books: A
Currency of Hope, Alcoholics Anonymous, and the Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. When you read A.A. literature, we
suggest substituting the words debt and debting for alcohol and
drinking.
The Twelve Steps
We suggest that you begin
by working the Twelve Steps and by practicing the D.A. Tools. Because
we did not arrive overnight at the circumstances that brought us to
D.A., solving our problems has required time and effort. While using
the Tools of D.A. provides some relief from compulsive debting, working
the Steps leads to recovery.
Work the Steps
We
suggest that you work the Twelve Steps in order, preferably with a
sponsor or an experienced D.A. member who has worked and continues to
work the Steps to the best of his or her ability. For us, true,
long-lasting recovery results from a spiritual experience gained by
working the Steps.
Step One
We recommend beginning
with Step One. The sense of despair or "hitting bottom" we felt when we
first came to D.A. was the first step in our recovery. We saw that our
own attempts to scheme and manipulate our debts did not work. We
admitted that we were powerless over debt. We were ready to ask for
help.
Find a Sponsor
To help you work the program,
we suggest asking someone who lives the recovery you want to be your
sponsor. Sponsors help us work the 12 Steps, use the D.A. Tools, and
carry out our Action Plans.
Ask for a Pressure Relief Meeting
After
you have recorded your income and expenses for (preferably) 30 to 45
days, attended at least six meetings, and made a commitment to D.A., we
suggest that you ask two members of D.A. (usually a man and a woman) to
meet with you in a Pressure Relief Meeting. These two D.A. members
should have abstained from incurring unsecured debt for at least 90
days and had two Pressure Relief Meetings, and if possible they should
have recovery from issues similar to yours. As the members of your
Pressure Relief Group, they will help you review your situation and
formulate a Spending Plan and an Action Plan.
Anonymity
We
suggest that you practice the principle of anonymity. Who we see and
what we hear at meetings and in private conversation is kept
confidential. This principle allows all members the freedom to speak
openly and honestly without fear that our words or deeds may be used to
harm us. Please respect the anonymity of all D.A. members.
If
you decide that D.A. is not for you, keep us in mind for the future.
You are always welcome. Debtors Anonymous will be here when you need it.
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